”My Other half” she said

Today in the office I overheard a conversation, of course! Instead of concentrating on my own business, I was sort of hearing what this young woman was saying (I couldn’t help it) she is relatively young, maybe mid-twenties. Anyway, what it caught my attention from what she was saying was the way she referred to her boyfriend/husband/partner, she called him “My other half” How romantic right? (eyes rolling up) I find it a bit distressing, to be honest, don’t you? I know maybe you all see it as something familiar and cute and I believe here in the UK is sort of a normal thing to say, but for me as always, I take things a bit more serious and I like to think them through. “My other half,” she said, so, I started thinking and asking questions to myself to understand, because, (shame on me!) I have been there, I never said those exact words, but I felt them. In fairness, we all been there, right? If you haven’t, then let me know and will make you an altar!

Ok, back to the point. When I hear this expression, I can’t help to wonder what happens when the other half of you is gone? How can you survive with only half of you? As far as I am aware, you need all your organs and the whole human body organism to allow you to function and be alive. Weren’t you completed before? So then, when you met this special someone, you decided to cut yourself in half and give it to that other human To carry? like a burden, at least that’s how it sounds to me! He is ”her other half”, without him; she can’t function, without her, he can’t function! Those words carry the responsibility of being someone else’s organs, just imagine? To me, it sounds a bit uncomfortable and unfair.

So why do we call someone else your other half? I know! It is about the “feeling” of being completed by the other person. What I do not understand is who were you before? Before him/her, were you broken? Why weren’t you complete before? Or did you break yourself to be a half? Why you now need this person to complete you? Loads of essential questions that you should be asking yourself, especially if you feel It within you.

And let me tell you, you aren’t broken, we are complete since we were born, is just that perhaps we do not see it or feel it, the big question is WHY you feel the need to be completed? Society makes you believe that you are complete when we find someone to love and create a family. And what about you? What do you want? What makes you happy? What makes you a whole? I am not writing against love and relationships; I am writing to wake you up and make you think before cutting yourself in half for other person and being unaware that the other half is in you, your dreams, your goals, the things you like, the things you enjoy and make you feel alive.

Some think that they feel whole with another person. I am not criticising that, but I am just here to remind YOU never to put all your hopes in another person because we ALL make mistakes (including you) and we have a life of our own, don’t put that responsibility in someone else, find what makes you feel completed and do it for yourself.

From Marisa with love ❤️